Wednesday, 30 November 2011

SelfConfidence matters ....

If you look at most successful people, you'll see that they all have one thing in common - self-confidence. Yes, some people are born with it but for most other people, it's a learned skill.

Here are my top suggestions to increase your confidence:

1. Work on your body language.
We've all been at places where someone quite ordinary strides into a room, makes eye contact and starts impressing the socks off everybody. Or where you think somebody's at least 6 feet tall because of their bearing and the way they carry themselves and then later you realize they're quite average.
Like it or not - first impressions do count. So stand tall and practise good posture. Imagine that you're being pulled by a string going all the way from your toes to the top of your head. And whenever you enter a room, don't walk in almost apologetically. Stride in, make eye contact and be the first to introduce yourself.

2. Get involved in a physical activity - walking, swimming, etc.
Any physical exercise like walking, running, dancing, etc. will make you feel better about yourself. Firstly, exercising releases all those good hormones and then your body image will improve the fitter you get.

3. Wear clothes that fit you correctly.
Feel good factor comes from wearing clean and fitting clothes  The truth is that wearing ill-fitting clothes only serves to accentuate the very areas you're trying to cover up. Those big, baggy T-shirts don't do any favours for most women. In fact, they make you look even bigger.
Sometimes we squeeze ourselves into a pair of jeans (in the correct size) but they look terrible because of the cut. It is much better to buy a larger size and be comfortable. It's the fit not the size that matters.

4. Be kind to yourself.
Think about the things you tell yourself when you make a mistake. Would you say those same things to your friends? Probably not. When we make mistakes, we are often very hard on ourselves. Yet we treat other people much, much better. Next time this happens, stop and start talking to yourself as you would talk to a friend.

5. Remind yourself often of your good qualities.
Do you know what your best qualities are? Are you kind and compassionate? Do you treat people fairly? Are you a friendly person? Do you like to help people?
Make a list of at least five good qualities and remind yourself of them daily, but especially when you're having a bad day.
6. Don't dwell on your past mistakes.
Recognise that the mistake does not define who you are. You can fail an exam without being a failure. Your relationship might have gone off in the ditch but that does not mean you are a failure.
Keep things in perspective. It just means that you failed the exam or that the relationship failed.

7. Surround yourself with supportive people.
The last thing you need when you feel down or less-than-fabulous is to be surrounded by naysayers and negative people telling you that "all men suck" or "it's impossible to get that job you're after".
Choose carefully who you share your heart with and surround yourself with people who will encourage and motivate people. If you don't have many of those in your life, then contact me and I will be your cheerleader!

8. Keep learning new skills
Aside from keeping your mind sharp (and preventing Alzheimer's), be a life-long learner. I'm not necessarily talking about formal education.
What's stopping you from learning a new language, taking a dance class, learning some new computer skills, taking up blogging, etc. Learning will improve your confidence by leaps and bounds.

9. Take the time to reach out to other people through community programmes etc.
If ever you feel down, there's no better upper than helping other people. Volunteer your services at a children's orphanage or an old aged home.
My challenge to you is this - next time you eat out at a restaurant, instead of sending half your meal back to the kitchen, get a doggie bag and give it to the beggar on the nearest corner. His appreciation will melt the hardest of hearts.

10. Learn to stand up for yourself
Your soul dies a tiny little bit every time you keep quiet when you should speak up for yourself. Being a doormat is not attractive and will get you nowhere in the long run.
If haven't had much practice before, start with small things. Insist on low-fat milk in your coffee. Return the milk that went sour before the due date. Write a letter of complain if you get bad customer service. And only when you're feeling more confident, then tackle bigger issues like speaking to your boss about overloading you with work or your friends about relationship issues.
Learn to say no. It's not a swear word - I promise.

Pranayama -Yogic Exercise

Pranayama is an aspect of Yoga that deals with breathing. Pranayama is a method of controlling prana or life force through the regulation of breathing. It is the breathing process or the control of the motion of inhalation, exhalation and the retention of vital energy.


Pranayama or control of Prana, is the means to an end. It helps purification of the nerves and causes Nadi Suddhi. It awakens the mystic, serpent power, Kundalini Sakti. Puraka is inhalation of breath. Kumbhaka is retention. Rechaka is exhalation of breath. The practice of Pranayama should be systematic and well-regulated. The ratio between Puraka, Kumbhaka and Rechaka is 1:4:2. If you inhale for a period of 12 Matras, you will have to do Kumbhaka for a period of 48 Matras, then the Rechaka period is 24 Matras. You must do Rechaka very, very slowly. This is important. This is a sine qua non of the practice.

Easy Comfortable Pranayama

(Sukha Purvaka)

Sit on Padma or Siddha Asana with an empty stomach in your meditation room before the picture of your Ishta Devata. Close your eyes. Close the right nostril with the right thumb. Draw the air in slowly through the left nostril. Then close the left nostril with the right ring and little fingers and retain the air as long as you can comfortably do. Then remove the right thumb and exhale through the right nostril very, very slowly. Now half the process is over. Similarly, draw the air in through the right nostril; retain the breath and exhale through the left nostril. This is one round of Pranayama. Do 20 or 30 Pranayamas in the morning and evening to start with and slowly increase the number to 80 for each sitting. First have two sittings only, in the morning and evening. After due practice you can have four sittings. Have a Bhava that all the Divine qualities such as mercy, love, forgiveness, Santi, joy, enter into your system along with the inspired air and that all Asura Sampat, devilish qualities such as lust, anger, greed, are thrown out along with the expired air. Repeat OM, or Gayatri mentally during Puraka, Kumbhaka and Rechaka.

Pranayama removes all diseases, purifies the Nadis, steadies the mind in concentration, improves digestion, hardens Brahmacharya and awakens the Kundalini. Hardworking Sadhakas can do 320 Pranayamas daily in four sittings at the rate of 80 each sitting. Purification of the Nadis will set in rapidly. Many Siddhis are obtained by Pranayama practice.

Bhastrika Pranayama

This is one of the eight kinds of Pranayama of Yogi Swatmaram. As the bellows of the blacksmith constantly dilate and contract, similarly, slowly draw in air by both nostrils and expand the stomach; then let out air quickly making the sound like bellows. Inhale and exhale quickly ten to twenty times. Then perform Kumbhaka after a deep inhalation. Then expel it slowly. Do this three times. This is a very powerful Pranayama.

Tuesday, 29 November 2011

Serving the humanity

What does it mean to “become a human? “ Are  we really Human in nature though we call ourselves Human Beings ?
Thinking ….
So let’s have some fun with ourselves.Don't be afraid as this is no hypnotizing As I am always with you ..

Close your eyes .Take 6 long deep breaths very slowly and gradually. Think on incidences where you have been showing a deed of kindness love, compassion to others .  
How many instances are there where you have been involved in deeper way to other fellow being since your birth?

A) Hard to remember
B) Easy to remember
C) None

We are vibrational being not the fleshy or bony structure . We are living ultimate manifestation who can bring ultimate peace and happiness in society.
It means to be oneself, to be in harmony with the deepest inner being. The deepest inner being of a human is to rest in happiness (in Sat-Chid-Ananda).
To be a human means to have feelings, to be able to empathize with other beings and to live in all-encompassing love. Or it means to dissolves the ego, and sees him or her through all fellow beings.

 To be kind to everyone, and show forth affection to every living soul or being at a deeper level with all other beings feels their joy and their worries and so on
SO what is it that keeps us connected to our own self i.e. inner child..Humbleness…And all godly characteristics you can say.

Serving the humanity
As well said “Service to others is the rent you pay for your room here on earth”.
~Mohammed Ali
·         If you render service in order to oblige a person and if you feel proud of doing it, you are not only doing spiritual harm to the recipient of your service but also to yourself.
·         The consciousness that 'I am obliging someone' is the first to occur during the process of serving; but it can be annulled by the contrary thought, 'I am obliged by being given this opportunity of serving’. This latter thought facilitates the attitude of detachment and secures freedom from the bondage of good actions.

·         When rendering service, one should make efforts to imbibe divine qualities generally in the initial stages, one should render service which is feasible and can be done properly. Then one derives the satisfaction that one has rendered service well and gets the inspiration to do service of the next stage.

·         Often one is unaware of one’s latent potential. Hence, one should render service a little beyond one’s capacity. Only then does one experience the energy that The Lord endows to render that service to perfection.

·         Service rendered unto the Absolute Truth should be devoid of expectations.

Little ways to do service:

Through your Family:

Start with serving in our families. Daily we work, clean, love, support, listen to, teach, and endlessly give of ourselves to the members of our family. We may often feel overwhelmed with all that we must do, but "The key... is to know and understand your own capabilities and limitations and then to pace yourself, allocating and prioritizing your time, your attention, and your resources to wisely help others, including your family.
Give a potion of your income and Offerings
One of the ways we can serve humanity is by helping  children, our brothers and sisters, through paying a tithing and a generous offering . used to help the hungry, thirsty, naked, stranger, sick, and afflicted both those locally and world wide. has helped millions of people through their amazing humanitarian efforts. All this service has only been possible through both the financial and physical support of many volunteer as people serve God by serving their fellowman.

Get involved in your Community:

You can easily become involved in your community, it only takes a little effort to contact a local group, charity, or other community program.
 Donate Clothing and Other Goods
You can donate all throughout the world your unused clothing, shoes, dishes, blankets/quilts, toys, furniture, books, and other items. Generously giving of these items to help others is an easy way to serve and declutter your home at the same time. When preparing those things you are going to donate it is always appreciated if you only give those items that are clean and in working order. 
Help Children
So many children and teenagers need our love- and we can give it! There are many programs to become involved with helping children and you can easily become a school or library volunteer and help them to grow as a responsible human being . 
Utilize Your Talents
 Each of us have been given talents from the Lord that we should develop and use to serve God and others. Examine your life and see what talents you have. What are you good at? How could you use your talents to help those around you? Do you enjoy making cards? Are you good with children? Offer to watch someone's child in a time of need. Are you good with your hands? Computers? Gardening? Building? Organizing? You can help others with your skills by praying for help to develop your talents.

Monday, 28 November 2011

Golden ways to be at your feeling best

Nothing in the external world will bring you joy unless you’ve already found it within yourself.
I practice joyful living every day and every moment of your life.. I pay attention to on what I love and I follow it. 

Here are few tips/method which you can  follow in your daily life to make it worth counting.
    Each one of these tips is guaranteed to lift your mood, as will the mere fact that you’ve tackled and accomplished some concrete goals.

    Flexing the muscles near both ends-SMILE :  Once you get up bring a big Smile on your face. A new day is a new start of life. Begin a day with good feelings will certainly bring good luck for us. If we can also end a day feeling good, we will certainly feel the satisfactions this day bring to us. Start with some positive affirmations or prayers like Today is a beautiful day ….I am feeling good .Smiling Makes Us Attractive, boosts Your Immune System

    Showing Gratitude Pays:  Be gratitude for little things like your bed, toothbrush, clothes which gives you a way for healthy living. Gratitude is an easy tip to help us beginning a new good day. Just thinking of what make you feel grateful: a small helping from your workmates, a kiss or hug from your lover, spouse, a praise from your boss or friends, a hello from your parents and a enjoying now and so on. You can make a gratitude list or just say “thank you” silently in your heart.

    Accepting yourself unconditionally  :  Love & Appreciate Yourself and others with expecting any returns . You can say “I love you unconditionally” by looking at the mirror.

    Art of self introspection :  Keep at least 15 minutes from your daily routine for a self introspection .The examination of one's own thoughts, impressions, and feelings, especially for long periods can make you aware of your negative emotions and blockages .Contemplation of one's own thoughts gives awareness and checks on our emotions.

    Exercise daily at your own pace :  Regular exercise is a critical part of staying healthy. People who are active live longer and feel better. While you talk on the phone or, even better, take a brisk ten-minute walk outside. Even a small amount of exercise elevates your spirits.Do a little bit of warm-up exercise to make your body and mind healthy.

     Listen to a great song :  Research shows that listening to soothing music you love is an extremely effective way to improve your mood and a powerful stress buster.

    Reach out to friends  :  Make a lunch date or call a friend. Having warm bonds with other people is a key to happiness. Perhaps surprisingly, it turns out that socializing boosts the moods not only of extroverts, but also of introverts.

    Social Networking :  Networking with others can shift your mood and elevate through sharing on your hobbies, businesss,likes ,dislikes making new friends .Social Networking can be considered as one of the greatest innovations in the Internet today. It was originally used to provide a community wherein people could share information. Now, however, it provides the means for numerous things like information dissemination, selling products and playing games. It's a known fact that online networking has become prolific - mainstream sites like Facebook, business sites like LinkedIn, educational sites like Ezine, TV series reviews like Miso, cyclists sites like Pedal room, blood donor sites like i-Blood, there are endless options. Because of this, most people recognize social networking sites as the perfect place to socialize and meet new people.

    Clear the clutter :  Fengshui Science gives much emphasis on clearing the clutter and make space for new, fresh light energy to come into your life. Cleaning your  Closets ,bedroom,bathroom,Kitchen, etc…can really work wonders  in your life. Clear some physical and mental space around your desk by pitching junk, stowing supplies, sending out quick responses, filing, or even just straightening up your piles. Outer order contributes to inner serenity. Clutter affects your mood, your well-being, and your overall life. Clutter is often a sign of a much deeper problem. The time to conquer clutter is now. It will be refreshing and just think how tranquil and relaxing your home will be when you are done.

    Plan out for some fun  : Plan a weekend excursion. Studies show that having fun on a regular basis is a pillar of happiness. Try to involve friends or family, as well; people enjoy activities more when they’re with other people than when they’re alone.

    Fake Smile works wonders : Life is not to be taken seriously .Put a smile on your face right now, and keep smiling. Research shows that even an artificially induced smile has a positive influence on your emotions. Also, if you’re smiling, other people will perceive you as being friendlier and more approachable.

    Spend time with a friend  : Studies show that you’re more likely to feel good about yourself when you feel enthusiastic. For the long term, it’s important to get enough sleep and to exercise, but if you need an immediate pick-me-up, spend time with an energetic friend. In a phenomenon called “emotional contagion,” people pick up each other’s moods. By hanging out with someone energetic, you’ll boost your own energy.

    Go outside: Research suggests that sunlight stimulates brain chemicals that improve mood and increases focus. For an extra boost, get your sunlight first thing in the morning. We often believe that we act because of the way we feel, in fact, we often feel because of the way we act. When you act in a friendly way, you’ll strengthen your feelings of friendliness for other people. And that’s a happy feeling.

    Contacting your higher self:   It s very important to contacting with higher source or GOD . It gives a high sense of love, power, wisdom, Higher sense …Feeling exceptionally high, on the top of the world, clear strong, able to move mountains .Being in love are some examples of being connected to higher source .Get connected to him through a humble prayer .

    Begin and end a day with gratitude : A new day is a new start of life. Begin a day with good feelings will certainly bring good luck for us. If we can also end a day feeling good, we will certainly feel the satisfactions this day bring to us.

    Gratitude is an easy tip to help us beginning a new good day. Just thinking of what make you feel grateful: a small helping from your workmates, a kiss or hug from your lover, a praise from your boss or friends, a remainder from your parents and a pleasing life you enjoy now and so on. You can make a gratitude list or just say “thank you” silently in your heart.

    Meditation : Meditation is the best tip I have used when I come across unpleasant things and I find it very effective. Meditation is very easy to describe, but to enter a good meditation state needs some practice.
    Creative visualization : Creative visualization, imagination and thoughts are the tools of success and can change your life in big and effective way. It enables your subconscious mind to manifest your desires by using the power of imagination and mental pictures .It’s a technique to create what you want in life or to achieve your goals.

    Seek daily joy :  It is easy to feel good every day because our life is full of small pleasures. Open our eyes and pay attention to them will recreate a colorful world in front of us. Stay still and feel the sound of laugh, the smell and beauty of flowers, and all the living animals and plants.

    Decorate your environment with pleasing plants : This is a simple but effective tip. If possible, simple decoration will change the atmosphere where we are working or at home, and then our feelings are also changed.
    Drink  water : Drink water is not only the necessity of physical body, but also the needing of mind. Some researchers have proved that drinking water is helpful to feel good. Drink 4-6 glasses of water a day (at least) and increase the numbers gradually.

    Smile to yourself and others   : It is proven that smile is not only the action from the physical body, but also the expression of feelings. It is lucky for us that active to smile will give ourselves great internal supports to feel good.

    Read a good book :  Shakespeare has truly said “Books are those faithful mirrors that reflect our mind, the mind of sages and heroes .”
    You can read your favorite book or a journal. An interesting book will fill our mind with joy and happiness which will drive away bad feelings. A good book is just like a good tutor who will guide us from anger to calm, from depress to excited, from hate to love and from sad to joy.

    Maintain your hobby  : Pay attention to your hobby which we tend to forget in this busy life. A hobby can enhance our well-being and can give more meaning to our life The creative forces of energy present in everyone should not be repressed. In fact studies reveal that people who cultivate themselves through such activities are less likely to suffer from anxieties, rage, depression and other negative feelings. Interestingly, when you have a hobby, you will strive to create time for yourself and manage your schedule well to keep that appointment with yourself. While you pursue a hobby, you may discover that you have a talent for something unusual as well which you did not know about so far!

    Keep a diary : Maintain a diary to keep an account of your day-to-day activities? If you do, has it helped you make yourself a better you .Maintain a Diary and write what you like and love to do. It can give you company whenever you need it. For your whole life or for any special occasion or when you are alone you can always share your memories any time with a diary. Writing has the power to decrease the stress.

    Selfless Service : One of the most important principles for advancing at all levels, both physical and Spiritual, is offering and provding selfless service and service to others ... Do a divine service to your loved ones by cook them a meal with all your heart.

    Suggestions  are welcome from every individual who want a better living ……….”